#with more introversion

[inkskinned]

he says i hate everyone except you and that is addictive and that is kind of romantic and beautiful because you're young and you're kind of a sarcastic asshole too and you don't like bad boys, per say, but you don't really like good ones either. and you like that you were the exception, it felt like winning.

except life is not a romance book, and he was kind of being honest. he doesn't learn to be nice to your friends. he only tolerates your family. you have to beg him to come with you to birthday parties, he complains the whole time. you want to go on a date but - people are often there, wherever you're going. he's just so angry. about everything, is the thing. in the romance book, doesn't he eventually soften? can't you teach him, through your own sense of whimsy and comfort?

at first - you know introverts often need smaller friend groups, and honestly, you're fine staying at home too. you like the small, tidy life you occupy. you're not going to punish him for his personality type.

except: he really does hate everyone but you. which means he doesn't get along with his therapist. which means he has no one to talk to except for you. which means you take care of him constantly, since he otherwise has no one. which means you sometimes have to apologize for him. which means he keeps you home from seeing your friends because he hates them. you're the single exception.

about a decade from this experience, you'll type into google: how to know if a relationship is codependent.

he wraps an arm around you. i hate everyone except you. these days, you're learning what he's actually confessing is i have very little practice being kind.

[byemambo]

JES JESPIPAT AS TYME

4MINUTES (2024) | 1.01

Bonus: ghost ship DenTyme LMAO + making blue Tyme's signature color :) also I was kinda (extremely) kicking my feet making this set because of how charming and breathtakingly handsome Jes is like please look at those gazes

[granolagaeilgeoir]

"but you're so warm and friendly to people, you can't be an introvert!"

That's not how that works. I am not a little ray of sunshine, I am a battery-powered flashlight that's very bright but dies out when kept on for too long. Big difference

[randomly-generated-posts-machine]

yeah, sorry… your boyfriend was chatted up by matpat … yeah he's socially awkward now… sorry

[meteorstricken]

Was the female character "done dirty" and "sidelined", or is it possible that's she simply a more reserved, introverted sort who only acts or speaks boldly with a select few or when compelled and doesn't waste words?

Because, as a woman who's introverted/reserved IRL, I'm getting really tired of seeing this disingenuous "done dirty"/ "sidelined" take on female characters with the same bent.

Don't get me wrong--there are a plethora of fictional situations where female characters of all varieties get sidelined, but it's worth asking if that's what's really happening or if it's a natural product of that character's personality.

[asquared-ohgodnotthehorrors]

Shoutouts to the folks whose mistakes give them the sudden horrifying shock that their best is everyone’s bare minimum.

We’re all just trying to do our best. “Everyone” is relative. If we can, we’ll be better someday, on our own time. And if we can’t, then we shouldn’t feel guilty, because it’s out of our hands.

[nekoprankster218]

so you know the like thing of “extrovert adopting the introvert”?

had a thought, wanna see what people think / if they can think of examples:

introvert adopting an even more anti-social introvert that makes the first introvert look like an extrovert

[annoying--moth]

I hate having guests over, it feels so awkward because I am obligated to talk to them but I don't know what to say and my sister will be like 'hey why don't you come out of your room and come talk to everyone' and I'm like 'hell no'

[licorishh]

Listen I don't like to headcanon every character in everything as being neurodivergent because for one thing that's not realistic to have everyone in a random group of people be that way and often times it involves actually changing certain aspects of a character just to fit what you want which is not very cool, and for another thing I feel like it kinda minimizes the seriousness of things like autism and ADHD that really shouldn't be seen as "cute little quirks" BUT Alhaitham and Kaveh have one of the most autism + ADHD dynamics I've ever seen

Like realistically just taking the way they are

Mr. "Very Blunt but Not Because He Thinks He's Better Than Everyone, He's Just Extremely Intelligent and Matter-of-Fact, Can Only See Social Cues if They're Logical and on a Cognitive Level but He Doesn't Read Much Into It, Major Auditory Sensory Issues, Hates Talking Too Much With a Loathing, Doesn't Make Eye Contact For Longer Than Like Ten Seconds, Actually Talks a Lot When He's Talking About Something He's Either Planning or is Interested In," and Mr. "Constantly Frazzled and Squirrel-Brained, Loses Everything He Owns, Extremely Particular About Having The House 'Just So,' Has Tons of Financial Issues Not Because He's Lazy But Because He's Overly Dedicated to His Hyperfixation and Forgets to Live in The Real Word, Very Impulsive, Gets Easily Overwhelmed When He Has Too Much in His Head at Once and Too Many Expectations, Takes Alhaitham's Blunt Comments Wayyy Too Personally and Constantly Lives in Fear of Failure and Disappointing the People Who Count on Him," yeah you see where I'm going with this

This guy made a super interesting (and very underrated) video where he explains it really well!

I personally didn't agree with what he said about Kaveh, though. I think Kaveh's constant arguing and baiting comes from a place of wanting affirmation and desperately wanting to prove himself, particularly to the guy who used to be his best friend and now acts like he can't stand him (I know that's not the case and that Alhaitham mostly just thinks he's immature), and I think he has a lot of self-esteem issues that drive his behavior towards Alhaitham. I don't think it comes from a place of hate. I think he wishes they could communicate better and that they didn't have such a rift between them, but Alhaitham's failure to pick up on Kaveh's desire for affirmation and assurance (which I think is because Kaveh's not making it at all clear to him) isn't helping anything.

Tl;dr Kaveh's not actually immature, just has his own issues to work through including poor self-esteem which leads to him constantly asking for Alhaitham's opinion and constantly getting upset when Alhaitham disapproves or corrects or scolds him yet again because in his mind he thinks he hates him and he's desperate for him not to but he doesn't and just isn't good at making that clear. It's a loop, I think.

This turned into "Man look at these silly little relatable guys lol" into "Here let's do a character analysis" ksjdfhk

[waugh-bao]

"Although he oozes warmth, Richards’s natural affability has its limits. He talks about music with real joy but is on guard against questions that pry too far into his private life; his smile fades when I ask about a typical day in his life, starting with what he has for breakfast. “Who wants to know that?” he snarls. When I attempt to explain that the question had been suggested by my editor, he grumbles under his breath then fires me an intimidating stare that makes it instantly clear this particular line of enquiry is closed."

(Keith Richards Interviewed in The Telegraph, September 23rd 2023)

[jvzebel-x]

🦋

[ddlcpoly]

Natsuki and I aren’t the most people people, if you get what I’m saying, now we aren’t Yuri, but we don’t really like going out in public. Sayori changes that in an instant, seeing her so happy while roaming carelessly in public gives me (and I’m sure Natsuki as well) life.

That’s why we’re having our date in the park. Sayori is frolicking with each of us holding her hands, she’s jumping up and down just happy to be in the present. It’s a nice day, a bit cloudy, but still it’s basically perfect.

I suggest we should to stop and buy some ice cream, Sayori immediately agrees. After we get our order done, Natsuki perks up, saying that she’ll pay for all of our ice cream as she recently got a big paycheck. Recently she has been selling some of baked goods at school and explains to us that she got a commission for 3 bakers dozens of cupcakes for party a few days ago and that she’ll be paying for everything today. Sayori looks at her with wonder and joy as she hugs her and kisses her with her already ice cream covered mouth “You’re the best girlfriend ever!” She says, making Natsuki blush a deep red. I kiss her cheek “It is true, you are the best.”. At this point Natsuki is a but flustered mess “Whatever.” She replies “I mean, I just felt like being nice today. It’s not a big deal or whatever.”

We continue our date, now sitting at a bench eating our ice cream, well more like Natsuki and I eating it, Sayori already finished hers before we even got to sit down. She’s currently begging Natsuki to give her “Just one lick”, Natsuki responds “No, I already paid for your ice cream I’m not giving you mine.” Sayori fakes a sad face and turns to me “Natsuki’s being a meanie, please help me convince her.” “She said no.” I retaliate “then will you give me a lick?” She looks at me with her puppy dog eyes, she knows I can’t resist those “Nnnngghhh No. You already ate your ice cream, and a “lick” for you will devour half of what I have left.” “Pweeeeaaasseeee” fuck not the uwu talk “Fine, ok” I lean the ice cream towards her, and as expected takes more than “just one lick”. After I pull my ice cream away, she hangs her arms on my neck, pulling me close and kisses me “You’re the best boyfriend ever!” “Jeez, there’s a lot of best partners, aren’t there” Natsuki retorts “You spoil her too much.” She says to me “she’ll just end up becoming a bigger baby than she already is if you keep this up.” “Sorry, you know I can’t resist her cute lil face.” I grab her face with one hand and show it to Natsuki. We laugh it off until I feel a something wet on my head.

Closing the door behind me I see Sayori and Natsuki behind me, completely soaked. The storm came out of nowhere and it came guns a blazing. We were already probably completely wet when we arrived to Sayori’s and my neighborhood. We decide to take baths and dry ourselves off, tired because of the recent running and the perfect weather for this, we decide to watch anime for the rest of the day, of course cuddling each other.

Sayori’s isn’t much of a quiet person, if you get what I mean, now she isn’t Monika, but she doesn’t really like being in small groups. Natsuki and I change that in an instant, seeing us so immersed and comfortable while watching anime together gives her life.

[admirableadmiranda]

I'm a little confused about why LWJ is seen as someone who wouldn't be able to express his emotions now when we've seen evidence otherwise now, especially with his family and WWX. I wonder if characters that are more introverted are just harder to interpret.

Lan Wangji just expresses his emotions in a very different way from people who have their every thought crystallized on their face and for some reason this is Very Hard for people who don’t want to look closer to interpret. If you take some time to sit with the text, he’s actually very easy to understand.

I think it’s less even about the introversion and more just that we only have a couple lines across the whole book that dip into his point of view, so people just make up whatever they want, ignoring that not only is he perfectly readable with a little patience, but that by the end of the book, Wei Wuxian is completely unfooled by him no matter how much he may try to not emote. Even if we have trouble, he certainly won’t.

For whatever reason, this fandom has a bunch of people who just don’t like Lan Wangji and I have never understood them. He’s so lovable and fun!

[corvid-language-library]

@ocs-and-chapters dw most of my first week of 2024 was looking for more textbooks for Japanese.

I do love a good textbook! Let us know if you find any you like :) I'm still working with Minna No Nihongo atm (going through all the chapters in order which means recapping some very basic stuff rn, but I can't bring myself to just skip chapter lmao). I have Nihongo Somatome N4 too which is a good overview of N4 grammar, plus Japanese Tutor from the Teach Yourself series, which is... uhh. Well, let's just say I was disappointed.

[isekyaaa]

People tag so many normal things as "autism" that I'm lowkey concerned that majority of these people aren't even autistic but have latched onto a very real developmental disorder to validate their quirks. Either that or a symptom of autism is assuming your experience is so incredibly unique that any normal human being couldn't possibly experience it.

[13eyond13]

How do you think a fem L would go about dating the people she likes?

Hmm... lots of teasing and sly flirting... I also think she'd be pretty assertive and forward about asking somebody she is interested in out, and maybe is somebody who normally has commitment issues, but also really likes the chase too